I am extremely shy when you first meet me. From afar, I can even look unapproachable—thanks to my RBF. This means it’s really hard for anyone to really get to know me and be able to tell if I like them.
There are SO many other girls out there just like me, and sometimes they’re even more shy than I am. A girl could have a mad crush on you, and you would never be able to tell because she’s so shy she barely even looks at you.
Why some girls are so shy
Shyness has a lot to do with personality type, and it can even be hereditary, meaning it’s not exactly their fault. Other reasons some girls are extremely shy is because they’re insecure and don’t want to put themselves out there.
How to tell if a shy girl likes you
Lucky for you, you’re not completely at a loss when it comes to telling if a shy girl likes you. There are certain giveaways that signify our interest, but you have to pay close attention.
It took me a long time to realize the reason my crushes never talked to me was because they had NO idea I was subtly hinting that I liked them. From one shy girl to someone trying to decode another shy girl, these are all the secret signs a shy girl is totally into you.
#1 You catch her looking at you a lot. Anyone who likes anybody is going to want to look at them a LOT. It’s like we want to memorize their features so we can recall them in our minds later and daydream over them.
That being said, if this shy girl is sneaking peeks at you when she thinks you’re not looking, then she likes you.
#2 Her face turns red when you’re near and/or you talk to her. Shy girls are usually the type to get nervous and flustered easily, and your presence will certainly do this if she likes you. When she turns red and stutters/gets nervous around you, it’s a sign she likes you.
#3 She smiles at you more than anyone else. Shy girls, just like any other girl who likes someone, won’t be able to hide a smile around the person she likes. You being around just makes her happy.
The best way to tell if a shy girl likes you is to notice how much she smiles around you in comparison to someone else. If it’s significantly more, then she must like you.
#4 She “accidentally” touches you. Shy girls aren’t brazen enough to walk up to you and grab your hand. Instead, we “accidentally” run into you in order to initiate some type of contact. We also use this as an excuse to talk to you without just walking right up and doing it—because that would be mortifying.
#5 She talks to every other guy… except you. Believe it or not, this is a huge sign that a girl likes you. If she acts shy around you, but can talk to just about every other guy, it’s because you make her so nervous she would rather avoid you and admire you from a distance.
In order to really tell if this is the case, notice when she decides to suddenly talk to all these other guys. Is it right when you arrive? If so, it’s because she wants to be around you because she likes you.
#6 She gets fidgety when you’re near. Nerves cause fidgets and nerves are caused by liking someone a lot. When she’s so nervous that she’s constantly adjusting her stance, crossing and uncrossing her legs, or, what I’m guilty of, bouncing her knees a lot, it’s because you make her nervous because of her feelings for you.
#7 She plays with her hair and clothes a lot. This goes right along with the fidgeting except it has more to do with her appearance. She’s nervous about how she looks around you!
If you notice she’s running her fingers through her hair, adjusting her shirt, or just looking down at herself in general to see how she looks, it’s because she likes you.
#8 You run into her almost everywhere. This may seem like a coincidence since you’re seeing her EVERYWHERE, but believe me it’s not. When a shy girl likes you but is way too nervous to walk up and talk to you herself, she wants to give you as many opportunities as possible for you to do the initiating.
So, she’ll show up to all the places you frequent in the hopes that you’ll notice her and start up a conversation about what a “coincidence” it is that you always see her.
#9 She’s the only one laughing at your jokes in a group setting. When you’re in a big group and happen to let a few jokes slide and she’s pretty much the only person laughing, it’s because she likes you. Science has proven we actually find those we like to be funnier than they actually are. Good news for your love life, bad news for your comedy career.
#10 She likes your social media updates. Still wondering how to tell if a shy girl likes you? One way shy girls show their interest in you is by liking all of your social media updates. Whether it’s your pictures or new posts, we’ll like it all in the attempt to get you to realize we like you! I mean, why else would we like that stupid video of a squirrel eating out of that dude’s hand?
#11 You notice she’s made herself part of your friend group. Sometimes girls that like you will squeeze their way into your friend group just so they can be near you more. If you notice she’s suddenly hanging out with all of your friends, it could be because she likes you.
#12 She makes eye contact with you a lot. Eye contact is a huge indication someone is into you, and lucky for us shy girls, it also requires very little effort on our part. So if she’s eyeing you up and maintaining that eye contact during conversation, she’s really into you.
#13 She never initiates conversation, but she will talk to you for hours if she could. I will be the first to admit, I will never start a conversation with my crush, but the second he starts one I will never shut up.
That’s really how it is for many shy girls out there. This is because we really want to talk to you but just can’t get up the courage to start the conversation ourselves.
#14 Her friends snicker and nudge her when you walk by. If you’ve noticed, whenever you come into the room where her friends surround her and they start nudging her and giggling, she likes you, and they’re pointing out your presence just to make her nervous.
#15 Ask her and she’ll tell you. Although she’s shy, if you straight up ask her if she likes you, she’ll more than likely say yes. She will almost never take the initiative to tell you so herself, but she’ll jump at the chance to let you know if you take the reigns.