Most of us have been on a date that hasn’t gone well, and some of us have even been on dates where part of you wanted to escape through the back door of the restaurant or out the bathroom window. Maybe the girl you were with didn’t exactly fit the picture on her profile, maybe she was self-obsessed, or maybe the two of you simply were not compatible. Whatever the reason may be, this guide will help you get out of any bad date the right way and allow you put an end to your nightmare.
There is no reason you should remain in an uncomfortable situation for the sake of someone you barely know, so if the date is not working out, use the direct approach and simply tell her. If the date isn’t going well for you, she may not exactly be having a blast either; however, just because you think it’s a bad date, don’t just automatically assume that she feels the same way.
It’s a good idea to be honest about your feelings in such a way that your date doesn’t feel offended or hurt and tell her something like “We don’t seem to have much in common and I don’t feel the date is going well” or “I just don’t see this as a good match and I don’t want to waste anymore of your time, so I’m going to cut this short.” Mention to her that you appreciate her time and company to soften the blow.
If you’re simply not interested in taking the relationship to the next level, never make the mistake of sending out mixed signals to your date. If you don’t want to see her again, make this very clear and make sure that you don’t give her any reason to assume that you’ll be happy to go on another date with her.
Don’t make mistakes like telling her that you had a great time if you really didn’t or letting her hold your hand, and definitely avoid kissing her or telling her that you want to be friends if you have no intentions of dating her again because all of these things send out signals that you are interested. Never give away any personal or contact information to avoid follow up calls or requests for second dates from desperate women.
Sure, you can always escape a bad date by taking the coward’s way out and doing things like arranging the “fake emergency phone call” or faking an illness and disappearing. Although these tactics would definitely end the date, it would occur in a manner that was neither graceful nor very tactful.
No matter how bad the date may be, it is important to remember that the girl you’re with is human and has feelings as well. Be very confident and sure of what you’re doing and simply tell her thank you and good-night and leave before she has a chance to start pressuring you into promising another date.
Avoid trying to analyze a bad date and realize that sometimes the people who seem like a good match are not. Knowing this will allow you to ensure that you have more in common with the woman you’re going to go out with next time.