Self-acceptance is fundamental if you’re going to live a prosperous, healthy and successful life. If you can’t love your self, it’s going to be pretty impossible to ever be your best.
For lots of women, though, loving themselves is a lot easier said than done. Whether a bad experience has sapped you of all your confidence, or whether you’ve always struggled to accept yourself as you are, self-love doesn’t always come so easy. On a bad day, just a simple mistake or a throwaway comment from another person can make you feel absolutely worthless.
The good news is that self-acceptance and self-love can be learned. If you look at them as skills that can be acquired, you’ll already be giving yourself a better chance of being happy with you who you are. Let’s take a look at 10 ways in which you can harness self-acceptance.
Focus On Your Strengths
It’s time to stop focusing on your weaknesses, and time to start celebrating your strengths. People who are down at heel are much better at collecting their shortcomings than they are their strengths.
In fact, many women fail to see their strengths at all, and instead rely on the same old script that details their lack of worth.
Focusing on your strengths means breaking from the script and creating a plot twist – albeit a very exciting one. Take a pen and a notebook and list your strengths. List as many that come to mind, and ask your friends and family members to suggest some. Think back to your accomplishments for inspiration.
Start Your Day With Love
Many of us start the day off in the wrong way by immediately opening up our laptop’s and checking out social media.
But social media can be awash with negativity, and this can seriously impact the health of your mind in the morning.
Avoid all technology for as long as possible, and instead breathe in good vibes and positivity. Listen to your favourite music, read some inspiring quotes and drink some amazing juice!s
Be Thankful For What You Have
So many of us spend a lot of time dwelling on what we don’t have that we forget all about the things that we do have.
Take a look around you and appreciate all that you’ve got in your life right now. Think about the friends you’ve made and the people who are in your life. Be thankful for your health, and the fact that you’ve got a job, youth and things to look forward to.
Lots of us compare our lives to others and feel bad that ours is not as good as theirs. But remember that there are people who have things a lot worse than you.
Surround Yourself With Better People
Women who find it hard to love themselves and accept who they are feel worse when they hang around negative people who bring them down.
To accept and love yourself, it’s important that you surround yourself with a support network of people who believe in you, and fill you with positivity. Negative energy breeds negativity, which is the last thing you need right now. To feel better, find people who are eternal optimists who can see your true worth.
Improve Your Diet
Your diet doesn’t just effect your body – it can also effect your mind. A diet that is rich in bad fats will cause weight gain, and you may then find it hard to love yourself.
But a poor diet can also cause depression and anxiety, and this even further makes it hard for you to accept and love yourself.
Look after your body and mind by eating more fruit and vegetables.
Some women find it hard to move on from their past. This can weigh you down, and leave you with feelings of regret that influence your future decisions.
Moreover, a negative experience can make you feel bad about yourself. For this reason, it’s important that you forgive yourself and move on. What is in the past should stay in the past, and you need to tell yourself that whatever decision you made at the time, you made with the best intentions.
Life is full of mistakes, but it’s important that we learn from them. Take the positives from an experience.
Stop Looking For Validation From Others
It’s easy to feel worthless after a bad day when we were subjected to the ire for others. Perhaps you got criticised by your boss for a mistake, or maybe a stranger told you that your fashion sense is awful.
Instead of retreating into yourself and hating who you are, stop worrying about what other people think. Focus much less on winning their approval, and instead that you’re your own person doing your own thing. Who cares what anyone thinks? You’re having a ball!
Do Something New
Maybe you’re finding it hard to love yourself because you’re stuck in a rut. If so, why not expand your interests and passions by doing something new?
Perhaps you could learn a new language, go back to school, or even change your career. You could also go travelling.
The more skills you have, the more useful you will feel. This, in turn, can boost self-acceptance and love.
Don’t Let Your Thoughts Run Away From You
The people who love themselves tend to live in the moment. People who find it hard to accept themselves, however, largely live in the future.
If you’re worried or stressed about something that might happen or go wrong, it makes it really hard to live in the moment accept who you are right now.
To help you live in the present moment, you could take up mindfulness meditation.
One of the best ways to feel better about yourself is by helping others. It might sound like a contradiction, but it’s true.
Helping other people brings a smile to their face, which in turn brings a smile to your face. It’s an incredibly powerful experience that reminds you that love still exists in the world.
A helping hand from you will work wonders for the person who is receiving it, but it will also work wonders for you. It will give you a sense of achievement, which will promote a sense of self-worth and self-acceptance.