She’s the girl who makes the world go into slow motion whenever she enters a room. She’s the one who makes angels sing and pluck their harps as she moves.
Her every step, her every move, seems perfectly cultivated by the gods of Olympus. She’s the one who has every guy worshiping the ground she walks on. She’s the girl of your dreams… She’s out of your league.
Like all the rest of the men graced by her presence, you’ve also been struck by cupid’s deadly bow. But as you look around you and see all these other guys who would sacrifice a limb to go out on a date with her, you’re probably already losing heart.
Don’t give in! You have a shot at dating her! Just because you look like the average Joe, doesn’t mean dating her is completely out of the question. Just look at whom Christina Hendricks, the buxom beauty of Mad Men, is married to. Google it, we’ll wait.
See what we mean? He isn’t the Brad Pitt or George Clooney type. He seems like the regular Joe, but he’s married to a gorgeous hottie! So now that we’ve increased your confidence a bit, you can proceed with the next steps for dating the girl who’s out of your league.
9 ways to get the girl of your dreams
If you feel like your chances are closer to zero when it comes to dating her, check out these tried and tested tips!
#1 Have the right reasons. At first, you have to ask yourself why you want to date her in the first place. You can’t just choose to want to be with someone based on how she looks, right?
That would be pretty shallow. And you probably shouldn’t be trying to go out with her if you’re just looking to use her for your social status or to make an ex jealous, because that would just be mean.
Instead, you have to have at least some knowledge about who she is before you decide to date her. Is there more to her than her looks? Does she have common interests with you? Is she the type of girl that you can see yourself dating even if she gained forty pounds and an extra set of chins? If you can see past her looks and still want to date her, then move on to the next steps.
#2 Be a gentleman. Being the bad boy who jerks women around won’t get you a ticket into her heart. If anything, it will most likely get you banned for life. It’s being a gentleman that will get you the keys to her affections.
And we’re not talking about being a gentleman to her and her alone. You have to be a true gentleman to everyone, from the CEO of your company to the guy who sweeps leaves off the sidewalk.
Showing her that you’re a nice guy who respects people will instantly give you points. It shows her that if she happens to want to hang out with you, she won’t be hanging out with a douche bag who just wants to get in her pants.
#3 Have a sense of humor. Looks fade, but a sense of humor sticks around for the long haul. Women in general are suckers for guys who can make them laugh. Laughter isn’t just the best medicine. It’s the social panacea that can get you closer to tons of other people.
Being a guy with a sense of humor not only means you’re a fun guy to hang out with, but it also shows people that you’re quick enough with your wits to come up with something amusing to say.
Just a word of advice on the humor: don’t make a joke at someone’s expense. It’s rude, and it paints you in bad light, especially if you’re talking to the girl you want to date. If you think the only way you can come up with something funny is by making fun of someone else, skip the humor lest you start offending people and turning her off.
#4 Always be around. We’re not saying you should lurk in the shadows, because that would be creepy. By being around, we mean you should be within her periphery whenever it matters. If the girl is a friend of your friend, convince your pal to invite you whenever she’ll be around.
If she’s an office mate, sync your coffee breaks often enough to make you a familiar face. Whenever you do come near her, make sure you’re as pristinely presentable as possible!
When you’re familiar enough, you can then say hi. She won’t feel threatened or weirded out since she has already seen you around. Once you get past the initial greetings, then you can move on to small talk and, after a while, a real conversation.
#5 Be confident, but not arrogant. A girl who knows she’s hot also knows that she can be intimidating. This helps her by keeping the intimidated guys at bay.
Don’t be one of them! Keep in mind that she’s only human. You won’t get struck by lightning whenever you try to talk to her. Smile and try to relax when you’re talking to her. She’s more likely to pay attention to you, and maybe even like you, if she can see that you’re not intimidated.
#6 Show her what you’re good at. What you don’t have in looks can be more than made up for in talent. You can show her what you’re good at and hope that this can be enough to pique her interest. For instance, you can ask her to watch your band play at one of your gigs.
If you’re more on the artsy side, you can post some of your artwork on social media in the hope that she’ll notice. She might show admiration for your talent, if you just find a way to make her notice.
#7 Find out her weakness. Women have weaknesses for all sorts of things, from sweets to cute, cuddly creatures. Once you know more about her, you can find out what she’s really into. You’d be lucky if you just happen to be interested in the same things since you’ll automatically have something to talk about.
In the event that she’s interested in something you know nothing about, do a little research and ask the right questions. For instance, you may find out that she’s a huge fan of Red Hot Chili Peppers.
You don’t have to listen to all their albums, but you can listen to some of their more popular songs. You can ask her which of their songs she likes, and you can mention that you actually prefer one of their other songs. This can open up an entire discussion where you’re not just agreeing to everything she says.
#8 Focus more on her mind and less on her looks. Like we said, the women whom you think are out of your league are most likely already aware of how gorgeous they are.
They’re more likely to think it’s tedious whenever you keep telling her she’s gorgeous. Instead, compliment her on what’s going on in her mind. After a couple of conversations, she can start opening up more about her opinions and views. When she says something that sparks your interest, casually say that you like how well she’s able to discuss it or that you think her ideas are pretty cool.
#9 Try something unconventional. Once you think it’s time for you to confess how you feel, don’t just go for flowers and candles and a bunch of stuff that other people have used time and again.
Go for something she probably hasn’t experienced yet. It can be as dorky or as cheesy or as romantic as you like, as long as it’s not typical.
One way you can do this is by sending her a note written in calligraphy. She probably hasn’t received anything like it before. You can also write her a song and play it live or online for her. Using all your combined knowledge of what she’s into, incorporate this into finding the perfect way to finally ask her to choose to be with you.