So you’re in a relationship and you want to make it last. Of course, you don’t want him to be chasing after other girls or other relationships. You want to be the best girlfriend for him so that he can be the best boyfriend for you. So what’s the secret?
How to be a good girlfriend
As it turns out, there’s no one secret to staying together for the long haul, but there are a few simple things you can do to make you the best girlfriend he’s ever had. Read on to find out what you can do to make him wake up with a smile every day.
#1 Be the “friend” in girlfriend. Remember, you’re in a relationship. You’re not just there for each other to roll around in the hay and go at it in bed. There has to be a connection and deep intimacy. Be a companion to him. Share your interests and respect each other’s views.
#2 Give him his space. Clingy girlfriends are a major turn-off. While constantly calling and texting him may be all right in the first stages of your relationship, it can get old pretty soon. So if you don’t ease up on demanding for his attention, he’ll want to break free and break up. Show that you trust your man enough to let him live his life. In the end, he’ll be the one who will be chasing you.
#3 Like his friends. A good girlfriend will not stir conflict between herself and her man’s friends—or worse, make his man choose between her and his friends. Remember, his friends were there long before you came into the picture, so you should respect that. They may be foolish and childish at times, but they are his friends. You wouldn’t want him to come between you and your girlfriends, right?
#4 Make his friends like you. Another way to get the love and affection of your man right from the get-go is to make his friends like you, too. Their seal of approval is a great pat on the back to your man, and he’ll be proud to have you as his girl.
#5 Feed him well. Food is truly a great way to a man’s heart. So while you can’t be in the kitchen 24/7, at least visit it once in a while to whip up something delish for your guy. It doesn’t matter if it’s just pancakes or a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. What matters is that you’re showing him that you want to take care of him by making that effort.
#6 Don’t give him a reason to be jealous. It goes without saying, but a good girlfriend is a faithful one. It doesn’t matter if you’re the hottest, most beautiful woman in the room and all the guys are drooling at you. Let your man know that he’s the only guy for you and that he has your full attention. Never flirt around with other guys, and let him know that he can trust you. He will be loyal to you, too.
#7 Trust him. Give him enough space so he feels that you trust him. Always questioning him about his whereabouts will only make him feel caged, and you will only look possessive. A good girlfriend trusts her man, but knows how to set boundaries when that trust is broken.
#8 Build up your pleasing personality. Everyone is drawn to a pleasing personality. Negativity just repels people, regardless of how they are related to you. The best girlfriends are the ones who have a pleasing personality that makes them easy and comfortable to be around. He’ll want to spend more time with you, and he’ll want to please you, too.
#9 Turn nagging into an irresistible request. So he can be frustratingly childish and messy at times. This doesn’t mean you should fire your mouth off. A good girlfriend knows the art of “nagging” constructively. Try not to raise your voice. Instead, talk to him in a soft, even seductive, tone. Disarm him with your sweetness and let your concern shine through instead of your need to control by nagging.
#10 Learn how to listen. So he’s had a bad day and he just wants to rant for the rest of the evening. Let him. A key to healthy relationships is communication, and crucial to this is listening. Know when to talk, but also know when your man just needs someone to listen to.
#11 Pick your battles. Don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s not worth ruining a good day with your man, or even ruining your relationship, over something trivial. Learn when something truly is worth fighting over, but also learn when to leave things as they are.
#12 Be great in bed. Okay, so we’re not saying that you have to be a porn star. But sex can be an important part of any relationship, so make sure he feels that you’re enjoying it just as much as he is. And if you’re not, speak up! Communicating with him, as well as listening and being open to his needs, is key to having great sexual chemistry.
#13 Make him feel special. Make him feel special and loved. From something as simple as a massage at the end of a long work day, to spending uninterrupted weekends with him, remember to go that extra mile to show how much you love him and how much he means to you.
#14 Make him feel appreciated. Look at how he treats you and think about the things you do together. Find ways to tell and show him how much you have appreciated him throughout your relationship. This will make him feel great about all the effort he’s spent, which will therefore make him feel great about investing in a long-term relationship with you.
#15 Feed his ego. It’s no secret that men love their egos to be stroked. But men also have insecurities despite their tough exteriors. By giving his ego a boost, he won’t go looking for other means *or other girls* to make him feel good about himself. Make him feel attractive and desirable by complimenting him, but make sure you’re genuine about it.
#16 Let him be the man in the relationship. Men like to feel in control—it’s innate in their nature. They often want to feel in charge, so let him fill that role. Let him feel that he can take the lead by asking for his opinion about certain things in your relationship and being open to his suggestions. Also, let him take care of you, even if it just means letting him open the door for you, guide you to your seat, and pick up the tab.
#17 Be confident in your own skin. There’s nothing more attractive on a woman than pure self-confidence. Don’t let insecurities and doubts get the best of you, and he will know just what kind of woman he has. He will love you more for it.
While relationships should be fun and comfortable and not an endless struggle or competition, it pays to put your best foot forward. After all, if you care enough about your man, you naturally want to be the best girlfriend for him. We all have room for improvement, and by following these tips on how to be a good girlfriend to your guy, you can be sure he wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.
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