How many men do you know who stubbornly put aside their feelings and attraction to the woman they love without at least giving it a shot? If you are wondering “does he miss me?” the signs are all there. You just have to read them.
He may have to keep his pride intact and not come running back, but there are other behaviors he exhibits worth more than any beg-back session.
Does he miss me? 12 ways a guy says he misses you without saying a word
If you want to know if he misses you, look at what he does, where he went since you left, and whether he moved on or stayed stuck. If he is in the same position, doing the same things, or even doing stupid shit uncharacteristic of him, those things all say, “God, I wish I had her back.”
#1 He hasn’t found anyone else. Y’all have been broken up for almost six months, and although you hear of him dating some girls, he still has not found anyone to share his bed at night. A guy occupies his lonely space, but if he hasn’t found anyone to catch his eye for very long, then you may just be taking up that space in his mind.
#2 He is sleeping with everything around. This is something you may not want to hear, but guys who miss the woman they can’t have often exhibit careless behaviors. Like sleeping with anyone and everyone to get the girl they love off their mind.
The problem is that no one is you, but they continue. If he wasn’t a player before you, and suddenly turned into John Mayer, there is something behind his drive to screw everyone in town.
#3 He pops up in unexpected places. If you notice him popping up in unexpected places, like your work or at the gym, there is a good reason to believe he hopes to get a look at you and make sure you are still around.
His way of maintaining his distance and not giving in, but don’t underestimate those small “bump into meetings.” You likely never saw him there without coming to see you before, now is no different.
#4 He hasn’t changed his Facebook status. When a guy is ready to move on, he makes it known to everyone around him. If he did it right up front, that might have been a brash decision, and he likely won’t change it back.
But, if after a couple of months, he still flies solo and hasn’t changed it, then that may be a sign he is waiting for you to return.
#5 He pumps your friends for information. If he still sees your friends and can’t help but ask about you, that probably isn’t simply concern for an old friend. Continually pumping for an update about who you are seeing, if you are okay, or how things are going with you, means he is probably trying to weigh his odds of making his way back into your life. If he didn’t miss you, why would he continue to ask?
#6 After repeatedly asking, he hasn’t returned your things. When a relationship is done you signal the end by divvying things up. If you repeatedly asked for some of your things back, and he refuses to oblige, he is trying to hold onto a piece of you.
If he didn’t miss you or hope someday to win you back, he would just give them back and be done.
#7 He drunk dials. If you get a call at two a.m. from his number when he has been out drinking, then you know when his inhibitions are down, you crawl right back up into his head. Don’t think that it is just about a booty call.
There is a drunk girl on every corner for that. If you are the first thing he thinks about when his brain goes to la-la-land, that means you aren’t out of his picture yet.
#8 He still has pictures of you all over the place. If he still has your picture up in his living room, by his bedside, or even in his Facebook photo, then he is definitely not over you.
Keeping your picture around would be irritating to him and scare away other girls if he was ready to move on. An inability to remove those items that remind him of you has “miss you” written all over it.
#9 His friends tell you he isn’t doing well. A guy’s best friend’s job is to help him get past his old girlfriend and move onto the next. If you see his old friends, and they sing you a sad story about how unwell he is doing, how he is depressed and isn’t himself anymore, that is their signal to you that you should step in to help.
If he didn’t miss you, his friends would barely say more than “hi” and make idle conversation. If they are trying to talk to you on a personal level about him, then there is reason to believe that they know he still misses you.
#10 His life has fallen apart. Guys think they are so tough that they can let someone they love go and will be totally okay. The problem is they don’t understand how much they rely on and need someone until you are gone. By then it is too late.
If he is depressed, his apartment and job have gone to shit. He looks like a woodsman who hasn’t changed his clothes in a month, those are all signs he misses the time you had together. He probably wishes you’d return to pick him out of the mess he has created for himself.
#11 He apologizes. One of the biggest indicators that a guy misses you is if they can, after the fact, come back to apologize for the way they treated you. It takes a lot of courage, and the loss of a lot of pride, for a guy to admit he is wrong.
It takes even more courage for him to admit it to the person he has wronged. If he writes you a letter, sends you a text message, or even shows up to say he is sorry, then he has been thinking a lot about what went wrong and how he was wrong to let you go or treat you the way that he has.
He may not say I miss you or come back, but those two words “I’m sorry” are sometimes even more powerful than begging.
#12 He hasn’t kicked you off his social media sites. When you are really done with someone, you go about defriending them and kicking them out of your world. If you are still friends, he is still on your feed and still a follower to your accounts, he is still interested in what you are up to. That typically means he still misses you.
You shared a ton of stuff. The reality is if you went through a lot together, he is naturally going to miss you. Depending on how things broke up, if things were ugly or tame, there are going to be parts of him that will miss the goods times that you shared. Even if, at the time of the break, the bad ones outweighed them. Time and distance makes us see things in a different light.
The past gives us a perspective we didn’t have in the heat of the battle. If you were once in love, there is always going to be some part of him that loves and misses the “you and him” that you used to be. If that is enough to make him come back or not, I can’t tell you. I just know that as much as you miss him, he probably equally misses you.