Some men have a knack of reeling in a girl and keeping her captivated, even when they have absolutely no intention of taking the relationship seriously. Don’t get caught by the charm offensive and don’t hang around, when a relationship is going nowhere. Read these ten signs that you really are wasting your time on him.
1. When you look real hard, you don’t actually know that much about him
A sign that the relationship is only a superficial one is when you realise that you actually know very little about the guy. It could be that you are so besotted with him that you haven’t even bothered to ask any questions, or that he is hiding things from you. Either way, if you have been with a guy for a while, you should know something about his past, his likes and his dislikes and where he hangs out when he’s not with you.
2. You keep running out of things to talk about
If the relationship isn’t going to last, then you have probably already run out things to talk about. In a healthy, long lasting relationship, you can chat away to each other all day long and there will never be any awkward silences.
3. You never seem to go out on dates
A relationship won’t go the distance, if you never do fun things together. Most people want more than a night in with a TV dinner, so if you never go out to places, just the two of you together, then you could well be wasting your time with this one.
4. You haven’t been introduced to his friends, or his family
If a guy has any intentions of making this a serious relationship, then he is at least going to have to introduce you to his parents. If you have no idea who his friends are and if you haven’t yet met the parents, then perhaps he doesn’t see you as becoming a permanent fixture after all.
5. You feel like you are playacting for his benefit
If you don’t feel comfortable enough to be yourself around him, then something is not right with the relationship. Everyone puts on good show when they first meet someone new, but after that, you should both be able to relax in each other’s company and not feel any need to pretend, for his benefit.
6. You do not agree on fundamental issues
If you strongly disagree with each other on fundamental things like religion, morals or politics, then that could be a recipe for a future disaster. You might be able to bite your tongue at first, but will you be able to do that forever?
7. You are doing all the running
Are you the one that initiates everything? If you have to push the relationship along and you are the one that has to suggest meeting ups or going on a date, then that doesn’t show a lot of enthusiasm for the relationship on his part. It could be that he simply doesn’t have the courage to tell you that he wants to end it and then, you really will be wasting your time.
8. He still sees his ex
Being polite and civil to your ex is one thing, but if your guy seems to run round to help his ex, at the drop of a hat, then you are wasting your time with him. This is a guy who is not over his ex at all and he would go running back to her, in an instant if he could.
9. You are not a priority
If a relationship is going to be a good one, then you both need to get your priorities right. Everyone has the right to a life outside of the relationship, but you should still be his first priority. If you don’t feel that you are his priority, then, perhaps he’s not taking you seriously enough for this to be a lasting relationship.
10. It just doesn’t feel right
The biggest indication of all will be your gut feeling about the guy. Don’t hide from your instinct and convince yourself that things will get better, because if your heart is telling you that something is wrong, then it probably is.