We have listed below some of the thing which will be required and their significance.
1. Bride price/ Dowry
A price a groom should be prepared to pay if he has intended to marry a certain young woman on whom he had set his sights on ever since they started dating.
In Ghana, it forms a key part of the traditional wedding ceremony where the groom presents money, property or some form of wealth to the brides family in exchange for the loss of her labour and all that she has to offer.
Over the years, bride price has changed / evolved from family to family. There are some commonalities, which can be found in most families.
Significance: It serves as an exchange for the loss of her labour and all that she has to offer to the family. Also in the olden days, the money presented to the bride was meant to be used as capital for setting up her own business or trade to support the family.
2. Money for the bride’s father
This is normally a piece of kente cloth and money.
This is to appreciate the man who fathered the bride from childhood into womanhood. If her father isn’t present, a man who took a fatherly role can be presented with this.
Nowadays, it’s normally given in monetary terms.
3. A present for the mother of the bride
This is normally normally a piece of Kente cloth and money
This is to appreciate the woman who nursed the bride from a suckling to the beautiful woman now ready to marry. A certain amount of money is given her.
The linguist of the family praises the mother for the special role she played in the upbringing of the bride.
4. 2 bottles of whisky or gin
This is a traditional drink, which is meant to ask permission before speaking to an elderly person in the bride’s house. The groom’s family knocks the door/gate of the bride’s house before they are allowed into the house. The bottles are presented with some amount of money or could be just money.
5. Present for the bride
Jewelry, headscarves, shoes and at least 6 pieces of traditional wax print cloth are presented to the bride. The cloths should be of different colours to enable her to use them on different occasions. For example, there should be two pieces of white cloth which she can wear after delivery of her first child.
6. Engagement ring
This is worn by only the bride to signify that she is married. The man (groom) is not given a ring at the ceremony.
7. Engagement bible
This is presented to the bride (if she is a Christian) so she can read in good/bad times.
8. Money for the brothers ( or male cousins if bride has no brothers)
This money is given to the bride’s brother who has managed to ensure no other men came sniffing around the bride whilst dating the to-be groom. If she doesn’t have a brother, a male cousin can take the position.
9. Food and drinks
The family of both the groom and the bride (as well as friends) will be present at the ceremony. The food and the drinks are used to serve all the guests to make merry.
Please note that the things required will depend on the ethnic group (or family). You are therefore advised to request for ‘formal’ list from the Father of the Bride!
By: Solomon Ansah/Agyenim Boateng (GCP)