Negative emotions are capable of circling us and swamping us, so that it’s actually pretty difficult to even breathe. They can keep us awake at night, fill us with anxiety and trepidation during the day, and in short they can stop us from fulfilling our potential.
But it doesn’t have to be this way. Despite it not always appearing so, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Black clouds that hang over us can be defeated, and to help you learn the importance of taking control of your emotions, let’s take a look at 10 helpful tips on how to deal with negative emotions, anxiety and stress.
1. Avoid Angry, Grumpy And Pessimistic People
Although not a scientifically verified fact, it has been said that each one of us is the sum of the five people we hang around with most. This means that if you hang around with toxic people more than anyone else, your personality will be influenced to the extent that you are overcome by negative emotions.
To ensure that you become more positive, it is often wiser to disassociate yourself from angry, grumpy and pessimistic people. If you know that someone is just no good for you and who seems to take pleasure in bringing out the worst in you, move on from them.
2. Ask For Help
One of the biggest signs you could ever make that you are taking steps to wresting control of your emotions is to reach out and ask for support. And it will also be the best decision you will make.
People want to help us, and sometimes we cannot lose negative emotions without the aid of others. If someone is important to you and you know they will take care of you, reach out to them and explain your situation. They won’t say no.
3. Take A Pause Before Replying
Whenever we’re awash with negative emotions, it can be very easy to respond to our friend’s questions with an unkind remark. This is a sign that our emotions are getting the better of us.
To make sure this does not happen, you should wait a few seconds before offering a reply. The result will be a more measured response that is not emotionally charged, and which is rational and logical. After all, things said in the heat of the battle are often the things we regret the most.
4. Go For A Walk
If you feel that a bunch of negative emotions are stirring within you, the four walls that surround you could exacerbate a bad situation. To this end, it is advisable that you step outside and go for a breather.
This will give you a chance to get away from negative energy, and it will allow for a few moments of introspection that will clear your head and save you from saying things that you will only later regret. Take in some nice scenery and ask yourself why you are feeling this way.
5. Distract Yourself
If you are feeling negative, it is sometimes good to take your mind off things with something else. This could be a television show, a ball game, or it could even be something as simple and easily as accessible, as an ebook or a few Internet memes.
Whatever it is, shifting your focus from the dark matter in your head to something else entirely is a good way of replenishing your mind and losing sight of your problems.
Even if you don’t workout, you should consider doing it to free up your mind from negative emotions and anxiety. Working out is a great way to alleviate stress, and it lets you take out your anger and frustrations on something else.
7. Accept That Failure Is Something That Happens
If the fear of failure is at the root of your negative energy, it’s important to remind yourself that failure is something that happens to all of us. Even the most successful people in the world have failed, often countless times. But they don’t let it get to them, because they know that failure is a part of life.
Indeed, you should see failure as a chance to grow and improve who you are. You made a mistake? Rectify it and come back stronger. You lost a job? Improve your skill set and get a better job or create your own business!
8. Recall Your Happy Moments …
… And say: “I want some more!”
Trading negative memories for happy memories is a great antidote to negatively charged emotions. Once you tap into that beautiful well of happy times you will instantly start to smile and be filled with radiant optimism that makes you want to create even happier memories. So get out there and do it!
9. Laugh At It All
On his deathbed, everyone expected the comedian Bob Hope to be forlorn and downtrodden. After all, he knew the end was near.
Yet rather than be sad, Bob Hope saw that humour was the only way to deal with his seemingly grave situation. When a friend asked whether he would prefer to be buried or cremated, Hope replied: “Surprise me!”
Laughter really is the best medicine, so whenever you’re feeling swamped with negativity and stress, stick on a comedy and tell yourself that life is not worth living if you can’t laugh at it all. Misfortunes happen, but if you laugh about them, you will feel so much better.
10. Replace Your Negative Emotions With Positive Ones
Negative emotions can be replaced with uplifting ones. You can start by writing up a list of all the things you’re grateful for. In fact, you could do this each and every morning, writing up lists of all the things in life that you should be thankful for. This could include the food in your fridge, the job you have, the family that loves you, as well as the roof over your head.
It could even include small things, such as the smell of freshly cut grass or a gorgeous sunset. This list will replace your negative emotions and show you that the world is beautiful once you open your eyes to it.