A lot of us think we are good judges of character who surround ourselves with the right types of people. We might also think we know our partner’s inside and out, as well as what makes our best friend tick.
But how much do we really know about ourselves and our own personality?
Getting to know other people is something we’re all taught to do from a very young age. In fact, from the moment we enter the play pen at kindergarten, we’re interacting with other people and learning about them.
But very rarely do we take the time to understand more about ourselves. Do we know what our core values are? How well do we really know ourselves?
Let’s take a look at 10 great ways to learn more about your personality.
Understand What Your Core Values Are
When you don’t understand what your core values are, it can be easy to drift through life doing things that seemingly contradict who you are. Perhaps one week you’re turning down meat at a restaurant because you saw an article about animal cruelty, only to eat a steak the next week because “but steak tastes good.”
Getting to know your moral codes will help you to make better decisions that improve your life and keep you working towards a clearer purpose.
Have a think about what your top seven core values are and write them down on a piece of paper. Spend some time doing this because your core values are what guide your conversations and every day decisions. Have a think about things such as security, integrity, dedication, wisdom, compassion, fun, personal development, and so on.
Core values are what prevent one person from entering a life of crime, or from refraining from having an affair. It’s important that you know what yours are so that you’re never trapped in a situation where you have to make a compromise you’d rather not.
Discover Your Dreams
Our dreams are what create our futures. Without our own dreams, we find ourselves squeezing into other people’s dreams.
Dreams are meant to help us build the life WE want to build, rather than having to help someone else build theirs.
Your dreams are just as important as everyone else’s and they are worth chasing.
But first of all, you need to know what your dreams are so that you can know more about your personality.
If, for example, you want to be a musician, it’s too specific to say “I want to be in a band.” What instrument do you want to learn? What kind of band do you want to be in? How many hours per week do you need to commit to learning?
Write Down 100 Questions
100 questions sounds like a lot, but you can do this stream of consciousness style so that they just pour out of you.
Take a pen and paper and write down 100 questions that are important to you. These could be anything from “what would make me happy right now” to “do I focus on my health a bit more?”
What Are Your Likes & Dislikes
Do you truly know what you like and dislike? It’s a simple question but unless you know the answers, you might not be 100% confident with who you are.
For example, you might think you like such and such a thing, but it’s now time to question whether you like something just because it’s popular or because your friends like it, too.
When I was younger, I used to think I liked going out drinking every weekend. Eventually, I realised that I didn’t. Not anymore. But because my best friend still wanted someone to go out with her, I continued for a while until I had to stop because it was distancing me from who I really was.
Defining YOUR likes and dislikes is not easy and it can be really eye-opening. You may, for example, might decide that you actually dislike baby showers and you’re not going to your friend’s next one.
It’s important that you ignore external references when creating this list and focus on what YOU like and dislike. Don’t think about other people and add something you “likes” list because a friend loves when you you love it, too.
How Do Other People Perceive You?
Although it’s certainly not important that our personality is shaped by what other people think of us, their opinion of us can sometimes be closer to the truth than ours is of ourselves.
It’s hard to be objective about yourself, so take a few moments to think about what other’s have said about you. Have they told you that you have a gentle personality, or have they suggested you get anger management classes? Are you direct with people and get what you want, or are you indirect and always come second best as a result?
Ask Yourself Who You Are Right Now
Where are you at in life right now, and who are you? Are you the same person you were five, ten years ago, or are you different now? Perhaps some aspects of your personality are the same, but others have changed?
I remember a great quote a friend who I hadn’t seen for over ten years said to me upon our reunion:
“In some ways, a lot has changed, but in other ways nothing has changed at all.”
I reflected on my own life and realised the quote applied to me, too. I was older and more experienced, but I still retained some of my youthful whims, dreams and immaturities.
What Do You Love?
How often do we really take the time out to discover what really makes us happy?
Now is the time for you to take up a pen and paper and jot down a list of 10 things that make you happier than anything else. Write about anything that brings you joy, whether it’s going to a football game or going out drinking with your friends.
Maybe it’s the little things, such as ice cream after a long, exhaustive day at work, or perhaps you get joy from the bigger things, such as tropical holidays.
Are You Happy In Your Career?
There came a time when I realised I was in the wrong job. I’d been in it for 10 years and always thought it was going to be my job for life.
Only, I wasn’t expecting my personality to change in the way it did.
If your job is at odds with your personality right now, consider what kind of job would be more suitable. This will give you a further insight into who you are.
Write A Journal
Leonardo Da Vinci was a famed journal-keeper who was always writing things down in notebooks so that he could understand more about the world – but also about himself.
For this reason, I suggest that you invest in a journal for your thoughts. Keep this journal with you at all times, so that you can jot things down whenever something comes to you.
It doesn’t matter about organisation (Leonardo was super disorganised); what matters more is that you’re recording your thoughts. Eventually, you can look through them and spot patterns that will help you to discover more about your personality.
Rely On Yourself For A Week
Finally, when we are entirely self-sufficient, we learn a whole lot more about who we really are. Go for a week taking responsibility for everything, from budgeting to making your own decisions at work.
Source: Beauty and Tips